Transforming the way we LOVE!
At our core, relationships are necessary. From our mothers to our lovers and everything in between, research shows how each relationship is critical to our emotional and mental well-being. Let me clarify that, when we say “relationship,” we are not speaking only of couples or individuals in established relationships. Relationship Coaching addresses Love in all its glorious forms: partners in life or business, friendships, caregivers, those unattached and looking for love, those getting over heartbreak, those who want to get started on building relationships – or if you are looking to reconnect with yourself.
What we know
“Research shows that people who have one or more close friendships are happier. It doesn’t seem to matter if we have a large network of close relationships or not. What seems to make a difference is if and how often we cooperate in activities and share our personal feelings.”
The Four Horsemen of failing relationships are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling. That means the recipe for successful relationships should consist of Praise, Appreciation, Support and Communicating with Vulnerability.
What We Do
Our approach to transforming the way we love is to build key skills for successful relationships of any kind:
Communication: We all have different styles of communication. Some of us are extroverted and eager to share; some of us are introverted and would rather internalize. Still others may not know where to begin with communication. No matter which category you fall into, we can help you establish your voice in communication.
Emotional Intelligence: Humans are emotional beings and, simply stated, emotional intelligence is the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others, and to use this knowledge to self-regulate and monitor your own feelings, thoughts and actions. This is one of the most critical aspects of any relationship, be it family, friends, co-workers, clients or customers. We help you build your emotional intelligence by providing education and tools you can use every day.
Responsibility: It’s like that old saying: “Keep your side of the street clean.” Whenever two people come together to form a relationship, of any kind, there are two unique experiences. Each person has their own priorities, motives and expectations. As individuals, we have very little control over the other person’s experiences. Which means we must have some clarity as to what is “our stuff” – the baggage, or preconceived ideas we brought with us – and know how to take personal responsibility of it. We help you clean up and keep up your side of the street.
Honesty: This is twofold – being honest with ourselves and with others. We experience the power and freedom of the truth when we can get honest about who we are and what we want. We provide a safe place to navigate your own truth with tact and respect. In doing so, you will enable the growth of virtually every other skill on this list.
Trust and Vulnerability: We all have a story, and life is no walk in the park. We are wired for struggle. We get disappointed, we get hurt, we get cheated on, we get heartbroken, and we get rejected. Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen and to tell your story honestly. It is the single most difficult thing we can do, but it is also the birthplace of love and joy. It is in being heard and seen with no filter that we can connect with others in a meaningful way. We also allow our truest selves to flourish and for others to love us.
We want and need love and friendships. However, sometimes between the heartbreaks, unhealthy relationships or just lack of experience, we find ourselves at a loss to establish or maintain the relationships we want. We will help to cultivate your emotional intelligence and awareness, and to overcome your emotional blocks so the love you want can be the love you have. You will be empowered to invest fully, communicate clearly, and be vulnerable with those you truly love.
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When we started with SLC our relationship was dangerously close to ending. We had tried counseling with no success, we had a lot to work on and no idea where to begin… What we learned at SLC in just 12 sessions cannot all be summarized here… But what we are most grateful for is that we can finally talk to each other not at each other and we are laughing more than we are fighting. What was the most helpful for us was the way our program was set up, we each had the opportunity to work one-on-one with our coach, as well as together, so we could work on the junk we were each bringing into the relationship and see how it was effecting our ability to connect communicate and really be happy as a couple. SLC helped us tremendously and I would recommend them to any couple who is really willing to work on their relationship.
- Ben and Anna
I am so excited to work with Kendra! Only a few sessions in and she has already rocked my world and I feel confident I am going to make positive changes!
- Cortney S.